There is no shortage of interesting happenings in this evolving shift in consciousness that humans are going through right now. One thing I find so interesting is that many of us are dealing with the same or similar issues at the same time. I think this happens so we can help and support each other, but also because it is an issue that is up in the collective right now. As we recognize and deal with issues on a personal level, we also affect the same issue in the collective. This follows the universal law of “As within, so without.” And vice-versa.
Many of my friends and colleagues that I talk with regularly have been saying that they are re-visiting boundary issues. And that is up for me as well. Most of us should be pros with this issue by now, as we have been working on this since we started our spiritual paths. But as I noted in a past article, we level up and around in a spiral and not a straight line, which always brings a new perspective. So much so that it is easy to get blind-sided and unexpectedly come face to face with a new nuance of the same old issue to tend.
We can hold several different kinds of boundaries at once, for our physical body, and energy body, for our time, for our relationships, and more, but it is really about energy. Where do we want to share our energy, and where do we want to conserve it?
On a relationship level a lot of us who provide service for others in one way or another, as a parent, friend, therapist, teacher, mechanic, or other provider sometimes have a hard time saying no to others who need our services. This is a familiar boundary issue for most folks. But the first thing we learn as any of these caregivers or service providers is that we cannot give effective care to others if we do not care for ourselves.
We may have figured out how to balance our boundaries in one or more of these roles like parent or practitioner, but have a hard time with that balance when it comes to other roles like family members or friends.
Boundaries around time are usually tied to relationships including those between our roles. This is why care professionals had to come up with the term “work-life balance”! There are hundreds of books and courses out there on boundaries if we want to delve more into it, but here I want to focus on them as they relate to energy.
Many of us who are trained in energy work were taught to set very clear energy boundaries. This is not only to keep us from taking on clients' energy issues, but also to protect them from taking on any of our own. And because of that, we have a responsibility to tend to our own energy in the most impeccable way.
It is not always easy and we do the best we can, but sometimes things sneak in that we have not dealt with before. Those always provide an opportunity to widen our perspective, and are great learning experiences!
I recently found that I had taken on energies that were not mine as I was doing tending work for myself and my ancestral lineage. These were manifesting because I was doing that specific work. They came through on an ancestral level and were also tied to a past life, so it was convoluted. I was not aware of this consciously until it came up in a session that a friend did for me. Unraveling that and preventing it from happening again is a work in progress, but also a valuable lesson.
We can also sometimes get complacent. We take our boundaries for granted and think that they’re doing their job, but they have become tattered and thin.
I have helped a few colleagues lately with boundaries relating to cording issues. One of them said she could actually feel the hooks coming toward her from other people! Sometimes we forget we have tools for dealing with these because we haven’t had to use them awhile. And sometimes we forget that we have every right to use them. In her case she realized that a history of family guilt crept up on her while she was not paying attention. She re-set her boundaries with unconditional love toward the other parties, but also for herself. She told me she was taking her life back to joy again.
It is a good idea to regularly evaluate our boundaries and decide if we are happy with their strength and flexibility, and discern if we are setting them from a place of love for ourselves. We can also evaluate our interactions with other people’s boundaries and look for those places where we may have stepped over the line, or even plowed right through them. We can learn a lot from that. And it also doesn’t hurt to apologize!
If you would like some tips on managing your boundaries, you may want to pick up a copy of my ebook, Practical Tools for Energy Body Balance.
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ROGER WHEELOCK and GAYLE RUTH are shamanic practitioners and teachers in the Pachakuti Mesa Tradition. https://www.rainmother.com/ I am grateful to be able to take part in ceremony with them, and to support their love for the Peruvian people through the World Ayni Association. Roger has a practice in Asheville, NC https://www.communityshaman.com/
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