There is no shortage of interesting happenings in this evolving shift in consciousness that humans are going through right now. One thing I find so interesting is that many of us are dealing with the same or similar issues at the same time. I think this happens so we can help and support each other, but also because it is an issue that is up in the collective right now. As we recognize and deal with issues on a personal level, we also affect the same issue in the collective. This follows the universal law of “As within, so without.” And vice-versa.
Many of my friends and colleagues that I talk with regularly have been saying that they are re-visiting boundary issues. And that is up for me as well. Most of us should be pros with this issue by now, as we have been working on this since we started our spiritual paths. But as I noted in a past article, we level up and around in a spiral and not a straight line, which always brings a new perspective. So much so that it is easy to get blind-sided and unexpectedly come face to face with a new nuance of the same old issue to tend.
We can hold several different kinds of boundaries at once, for our physical body, and energy body, for our time, for our relationships, and more, but it is really about energy. Where do we want to share our energy, and where do we want to conserve it?
On a relationship level a lot of us who provide service for others in one way or another, as a parent, friend, therapist, teacher, mechanic, or other provider sometimes have a hard time saying no to others who need our services. This is a familiar boundary issue for most folks. But the first thing we learn as any of these caregivers or service providers is that we cannot give effective care to others if we do not care for ourselves.
We may have figured out how to balance our boundaries in one or more of these roles like parent or practitioner, but have a hard time with that balance when it comes to other roles like family members or friends.
Boundaries around time are usually tied to relationships including those between our roles. This is why care professionals had to come up with the term “work-life balance”! There are hundreds of books and courses out there on boundaries if we want to delve more into it, but here I want to focus on them as they relate to energy.
Many of us who are trained in energy work were taught to set very clear energy boundaries. This is not only to keep us from taking on clients' energy issues, but also to protect them from taking on any of our own. And because of that, we have a responsibility to tend to our own energy in the most impeccable way.
It is not always easy and we do the best we can, but sometimes things sneak in that we have not dealt with before. Those always provide an opportunity to widen our perspective, and are great learning experiences!
I recently found that I had taken on energies that were not mine as I was doing tending work for myself and my ancestral lineage. These were manifesting because I was doing that specific work. They came through on an ancestral level and were also tied to a past life, so it was convoluted. I was not aware of this consciously until it came up in a session that a friend did for me. Unraveling that and preventing it from happening again is a work in progress, but also a valuable lesson.
We can also sometimes get complacent. We take our boundaries for granted and think that they’re doing their job, but they have become tattered and thin.
I have helped a few colleagues lately with boundaries relating to cording issues. One of them said she could actually feel the hooks coming toward her from other people! Sometimes we forget we have tools for dealing with these because we haven’t had to use them awhile. And sometimes we forget that we have every right to use them. In her case she realized that a history of family guilt crept up on her while she was not paying attention. She re-set her boundaries with unconditional love toward the other parties, but also for herself. She told me she was taking her life back to joy again.
It is a good idea to regularly evaluate our boundaries and decide if we are happy with their strength and flexibility, and discern if we are setting them from a place of love for ourselves. We can also evaluate our interactions with other people’s boundaries and look for those places where we may have stepped over the line, or even plowed right through them. We can learn a lot from that. And it also doesn’t hurt to apologize!
If you would like some tips on managing your boundaries, you may want to pick up a copy of my ebook, Practical Tools for Energy Body Balance.
Do you ever think about what you are radiating?
Right now, I’d like you to take a moment and check in.
How are you feeling inside? Expanded, contracted, neutral? Any particular color? Light, solid, sparkly, flat?
Is there a feeling or an emotion that underlies your automatic mental gears working to read this?
It may be very subtle. This subtle energy state is what we are radiating out from within us. It is not the same as sending (although some of us may be sending or projecting as well).
Now imagine that the brightest star in the universe is shining down on you, moving through space-time into your crown chakra and illuminating your body from within. Do you feel the light inside? Imagine the light permeating every cell of your body. It radiates out of your skin into your energy field. That light is your original soul state, before you took on this body here on earth. It is infinite in its divinity.
What if we radiated this light at will whenever we thought about it?
What if we knew every other being on earth, in the galaxy, the universe was made up of this same light? Yep, I mean everybody – including bullies, crooked politicians, even murderers.
What if enough of us all radiated our light together? Would polluted waters clear? Would soil renew? Would the air over our traffic-clogged cities become clean and fresh? Would wars suddenly end?
This what one of my teachers, Sandra Ingerman calls “transfiguration”. She and a small circle of friends and practitioners did this transfiguration process in a series of controlled experiments to clear toxic chemicals from water. The experiments adhered to the scientific method and the methods and results were documented in her book Medicine for the Earth. It probably comes as little surprise to those of you reading this that their experiments showed a marked reduction of toxicity in the water.
When I read her book about 8 years ago, I was so excited by this idea, and the possibilities it sparked in my imagination. I looked at ways I could bring this practice into my life. I feel like I was only able to scratch the surface, and my practice tapered off as life events took my focus on other things. I also did not have a close spiritual community at the time where we could support one another in this practice.
When I moved to Oregon, I found that Leia Hart, a student of Sandra’s in Eugene was holding monthly Healing with Spiritual Light circles open to the community. And I became friends with a woman who had worked with Leia and liked to go to those circles. I went to one with her and it was so powerful to be in circle with 30 – 40 people all radiating our light together! It sparked my practice again. I felt my guides on the etheric sidelines around me high-fiving my Higher Self, and they joyfully brought me guidance and support in my journey work to deepen my practice. Last fall Sandra released an online course of Medicine for the Earth through the multimedia publishing company Sounds True. As she guided us through the deepening of the practice and in journey and ceremony, I felt my understanding of the calling of this work refine and expand.
I realized that there is both an active and a passive part in the work. That duality mirrors the natural duality of our 3rd dimensional earth school. The active part is deciding to do the practice and then following through on that with action. Whether we decide to do it monthly, weekly, daily, hourly – it is the action that matters most.
The passive part is the actual practice of radiating. Radiating is not an action, it is just being. I admit this was difficult for me at first. As energy healers and lightworkers in the modern action-oriented world, we are taught to send energy, send light, send love. But in this practice, there is no sending, only radiating. What is the difference? A student in class put it best; a flower radiates its beauty, it does not send it, it is just being a flower.
When we realize the light that we truly are and radiate that light, there is a causal effect, as demonstrated in Sandra’s water transfiguration experiments. We influence the environment immediately around us, but there is no limit to how far our light radiates. Just like stars that are a billion light years away, their light still reaches the earth.
The great thing about it this practice is that it requires no special training, knowledge or attunements. All it requires is sensing into our body and the intent to connect with our Divine light.
There are ways to work with it and refine it, and Sandra has encouraged us to share this practice with as many folks as we can. My plan is to organize and offer this practice to my local community in Corvallis soon. I may even offer a way to connect via zoom so our circle can be more than local. I’d like to synchronize it with other local or global groups, perhaps Leia’s Healing with Spiritual Light group in Eugene or the Global Coherence Full Moon meditations. If you have ideas about the implemention of this or would like to be involved, I appreciate hearing from you.
In the meantime… let's all shine on!!
When I was starting out on my shamanic path, my first teacher, Lone Dove, told me that since I made my decision to follow the spirit path of my true self, that which no longer supported my true self would fall away from me. This would include partners, friends, jobs, ideals, belief systems, and ways of being in the world. She said the shadow part of ego was to believe that these needed to change with me as I changed. The way out of that judgement was to release them to their perfect path.
It made me uneasy at first. Who would I be without them? Could I make it without them? I had relied on some of them for a long time as defining who I thought I was, as well as for sustenance and support. It took courage, but I also realized that ultimately it took love. It is an action based on unconditional love, both for myself and for them. It releases us each to follow our own will and destiny. Who am I to say what is perfect for anyone or anything else? How can I know what their perfect path is? I can only know what mine is, and by keeping that integrity for myself is the best I can do for all involved.
Releasing them to their perfect path became one of my most healing philosophies and tools. It is a state where I end my attachment to the idea that things can be any different than how they are at this moment. The action is in the decision to release them to their perfect path. Often further actions are needed after that to facilitate the release. If it involves cutting ties with a person or institution, then I must take that next step. Most times I have found that it is easier than I thought it would be because I am coming from a place of love, not hurt or anger, even if it is only love for myself. Energetic action may be also be necessary. I cut any etheric cords that would keep energy flowing between us. I set clear boundaries. I also ask my guides if there are any soul essences that I have may have lost or that I may have taken unconsciously, and if so, ask for their help in the return.
Releasing something or someone to their perfect path does not always end the relationship. Our perfect paths may still go in the same direction together, but the relationship changes it so that we are each in alignment with our own integrity.
We all want to help others, especially if we have family and friends who are in pain and want our help. And we can help in many practical ways, but sometimes we overstep our good intentions. The most common egoistic trap of all humans is to think that we know what is best for another person. Releasing them to their perfect path frees us from this trap and respects their free will. It says we trust their Higher Self and guides to help them fulfill their soul’s purpose. Just as we trust in ours to help us fulfill our own.
Years after learning this from Lone Dove, I delved deeper into soul work through shamanic practice and reading Dolores Cannon’s quantum healing hypnosis case studies. I looked at etheric contracts, soul group and lineage agreements, and how past lives interconnect us with others. It neutralized the urge in me to judge anyone or anything. There is so much more going on at a soul level than we can ever realize!
Our current lives here on earth are but a tiny strand in the thread of our soul that is interwoven into the tapestry of the universe in the loom of the Source of All There Is. Our purpose is to love and take care of our tiny strand the best we can. As we do that, the integrity of our strand is radiated to the other strands so that we all make the thread strong and the tapestry wondrous.
To help you tend to soul issues that may manifest in physical, emotional, mental or spiritual aspects of your life, and to give you tools to empower your path to harmony and well-being.
-There are so many kindred spirits doing the work out there. I include these links to help our community connect with one another.
FAIRY CONGRESS - Offers a summer weekend gathering in person with workshops, circles and of course faeries and nature beings! They also offer a winter virtual weekend with amazing guest speakers like Orion Foxwood, David Spangler and R.J. Stewart. I highly recommend joining the online network to participate in monthly workshops, circles, and book clubs.
SACRED HOOP Magazine Guide to Shamanism Compilation- http://www.sacredhoop.org/Pages/FreeGuide.html
Owner Valeria Pearson lovingly created SOLE TO SOUL YOGA studio with a community focus. There are classes for all levels and events that lift the spirit. I am delighted to partner with her to offer a kirtan chanting circle once a month.
My friend and herbalist mentor, LAWRENCE BIRCH is a Certified Clinical Herbalist, plant whisperer and shamanic practitioner. If you need custom tincture blends or are interested in a wildcrafting apprenticeship, he is the teacher extraordinaire:
ROGER WHEELOCK and GAYLE RUTH are shamanic practitioners and teachers in the Pachakuti Mesa Tradition. https://www.rainmother.com/ I am grateful to be able to take part in ceremony with them, and to support their love for the Peruvian people through the World Ayni Association. Roger has a practice in Asheville, NC https://www.communityshaman.com/
NEW WORLD KIRTAN = Kitzie's podcasts include interviews with artists and kirtan music. I love attending her weekly Satsang group and the New World Kirtan Band concerts -