There is no shortage of interesting happenings in this evolving shift in consciousness that humans are going through right now. One thing I find so interesting is that many of us are dealing with the same or similar issues at the same time. I think this happens so we can help and support each other, but also because it is an issue that is up in the collective right now. As we recognize and deal with issues on a personal level, we also affect the same issue in the collective. This follows the universal law of “As within, so without.” And vice-versa.
Many of my friends and colleagues that I talk with regularly have been saying that they are re-visiting boundary issues. And that is up for me as well. Most of us should be pros with this issue by now, as we have been working on this since we started our spiritual paths. But as I noted in a past article, we level up and around in a spiral and not a straight line, which always brings a new perspective. So much so that it is easy to get blind-sided and unexpectedly come face to face with a new nuance of the same old issue to tend.
We can hold several different kinds of boundaries at once, for our physical body, and energy body, for our time, for our relationships, and more, but it is really about energy. Where do we want to share our energy, and where do we want to conserve it?
On a relationship level a lot of us who provide service for others in one way or another, as a parent, friend, therapist, teacher, mechanic, or other provider sometimes have a hard time saying no to others who need our services. This is a familiar boundary issue for most folks. But the first thing we learn as any of these caregivers or service providers is that we cannot give effective care to others if we do not care for ourselves.
We may have figured out how to balance our boundaries in one or more of these roles like parent or practitioner, but have a hard time with that balance when it comes to other roles like family members or friends.
Boundaries around time are usually tied to relationships including those between our roles. This is why care professionals had to come up with the term “work-life balance”! There are hundreds of books and courses out there on boundaries if we want to delve more into it, but here I want to focus on them as they relate to energy.
Many of us who are trained in energy work were taught to set very clear energy boundaries. This is not only to keep us from taking on clients' energy issues, but also to protect them from taking on any of our own. And because of that, we have a responsibility to tend to our own energy in the most impeccable way.
It is not always easy and we do the best we can, but sometimes things sneak in that we have not dealt with before. Those always provide an opportunity to widen our perspective, and are great learning experiences!
I recently found that I had taken on energies that were not mine as I was doing tending work for myself and my ancestral lineage. These were manifesting because I was doing that specific work. They came through on an ancestral level and were also tied to a past life, so it was convoluted. I was not aware of this consciously until it came up in a session that a friend did for me. Unraveling that and preventing it from happening again is a work in progress, but also a valuable lesson.
We can also sometimes get complacent. We take our boundaries for granted and think that they’re doing their job, but they have become tattered and thin.
I have helped a few colleagues lately with boundaries relating to cording issues. One of them said she could actually feel the hooks coming toward her from other people! Sometimes we forget we have tools for dealing with these because we haven’t had to use them awhile. And sometimes we forget that we have every right to use them. In her case she realized that a history of family guilt crept up on her while she was not paying attention. She re-set her boundaries with unconditional love toward the other parties, but also for herself. She told me she was taking her life back to joy again.
It is a good idea to regularly evaluate our boundaries and decide if we are happy with their strength and flexibility, and discern if we are setting them from a place of love for ourselves. We can also evaluate our interactions with other people’s boundaries and look for those places where we may have stepped over the line, or even plowed right through them. We can learn a lot from that. And it also doesn’t hurt to apologize!
If you would like some tips on managing your boundaries, you may want to pick up a copy of my ebook, Practical Tools for Energy Body Balance.
There is an unflinching light that is being focused on the massive inequality and injustice in our world. It is illuminating the deep shadow work we are all doing as a collective. The shadow of racism is very old and runs through all our ancestral lineages. We are steeped in it, have been steeped in it for centuries. But this light holds us all in in its embrace and is making us accountable to end the culture of killing, fear, hate and irreverence.
We stand in the light of our soul. But we look at the shadow.
We look at those times in our lives where we witnessed racism and intolerance and kept quiet. It is so prevalent in our society; chances are good we have also participated in racism and prejudice. We also see and accept that we may have unconscious bias.
Our most sacred work is to recognize the shadow within ourselves and own all parts of it. To become whole. To continue our journey into consciousness. We must also look for the gifts in owning our racism. That may make us feel uneasy. How can there be any gifts in it?
There is a gift in seeing that we cannot arbitrarily judge people as good or bad because its not so cut and dried. Not so black and white. And by recognizing that a generally kind person can get caught up in the collective social ills. And as we see just how pervasive it is as a collective shadow, our eyes open and we become conscious of any privilege we have due to the color of our skin. And due to our economic level. And where we live.
This shadow work activates compassion. We can’t help feeling compassion when we see suffering. Compassion for families and communities who fear they may never recover from the grief and PTSD because the murders keep happening again and again. And compassion for the murderers who were programmed by centuries of prejudice and the repression of the reverence for all life.
We become ever more conscious of racism around us. And we get to decide how we participate in the healing of it. If we feel called to take action to bring about the healing, then it is a spiritual act and we don’t need to worry about whether we are perpetuating duality or failing a Divine neutrality ascension test. We open our hearts to sacred activism.
Inner actions we could take:
Clearing ancestral wounds that may reside in us that were hundreds of years in the making. Using shamanic journey, meditation, or journaling, we ask to be shown the seeds of racism in our lineage. They may show as contracts, vows, imprinted belief systems, past life karma, or other issues. We then call on our team of helping spirits and healed ancestors to energetically tend to the issue. They will help us clear the contracts or unravel the imprints of old belief systems. This healing will travel throughout our lineage and will affect our ancestors as well as our descendants.
For most of us, our soul has had many other incarnations, being both the oppressed and the oppressor. A deep healing shamanic journey is to ask our team of guides to show us if there are any parts of our soul essence that got split off and lost from any past life trauma that needs to be returned to us now. If there are, they may facilitate their return right then or guide us to seek out a practitioner for help.
Another powerful journey is to ask our guides if we have inadvertently taken any soul essences from another. If they show us that we still have custody of any soul essences that are not ours, we ask our guides to return them to where they came from. Then we can seal the work with a ceremony symbolizing the returning.
We do forgiveness work for those we may have hurt, knowingly or unknowingly, with our words and actions. We can include forgiving ourselves as well. We can do this by using recapitulation, prayer, ceremony, or other methods our team of helping spirits may suggest.
Outer actions we could take:
If the color of our skin gives us privilege, we use it to be an ally.
We take to the street and stand in solidarity in vigils and protests for every person who is not in a place of safety because of their color, creed, or economic level.
We support businesses owned by blacks, indigenous, and people of color; and donate to social justice causes.
We call out intolerance and injustice when we see it.
We have courageous conversations explaining why we are focused on Black Lives Matter with people who contend that All Lives Matter.
We are decent and kind to one another no matter what the circumstances.
We have reverence for all life.
Social reform is part of the human consciousness crisis. It will not happen by itself. We need to do the work to make it happen. These are just a few ideas of what we can do for ourselves, each other, and humankind. Even if we only do one small thing it effects the entire collective. Never doubt our power to make a positive shift in the world.
Our first global pandemic has brought us a new way of perceiving the world. A wake-up call. A way of realizing our interconnectedness by sudden isolation from each other. Because our world has duality, yin and yang, things tend to happen in polarity to one another.
Humanity is slowly but surely realizing that everything is energy. This is why distance healing works. This is why prayers create miracles. The science of quantum physics is right there with us, consistently showing that particles “talk” to each other when separated by great distance. What happens to one, happens to the other instantly. We glance at these science articles when they make the news, but we do not fully grasp their truth. We don’t think they apply to anything in our reality. We forget that each one of us is made up of particles all stuck together. There is no separation on an energetic level.
Realizing this and acting upon it is what is going to help humanity to evolve into a species that can thrive. We are not thriving now. When only 1% of the entire global human population is thriving, that is the antithesis of thriving. There is more to thriving than economic prosperity. But it is difficult for humans to thrive when they don’t feel safe. When they don’t how they are going to pay rent and feed their families. When they don’t have clean water to drink. When they are living in war zones. When they are refugees. That fear of not being safe is what feeds separation. It is what the media and authoritarian and plutocratic governments around the world count on to keep themselves in power. It ties up our compassion and strangles the expansion of our hearts. But it is the fog of illusion, and that fog is lifting away.
Without the illusion of separation, your poverty is my poverty. Your virus is my virus. Your fear is my fear. Your grief is my grief. The bindings around our hearts we’ve woven to keep us from feeling, to keep us functioning, to keep some semblance of normality in the face of friends, family and society are unraveling. Our hearts cannot help but expand when we can look at ourselves and see the other mirrored within. When we can see the other is us.
The virus of separation has caused us to be susceptible to greater ills.
In this time of reckoning, we are realizing the connecting of our hearts and compassion for all beings will be the cure.
To help you tend to soul issues that may manifest in physical, emotional, mental or spiritual aspects of your life, and to give you tools to empower your path to harmony and well-being.
-There are so many kindred spirits doing the work out there. I include these links to help our community connect with one another.
FAIRY CONGRESS - Offers a summer weekend gathering in person with workshops, circles and of course faeries and nature beings! They also offer a winter virtual weekend with amazing guest speakers like Orion Foxwood, David Spangler and R.J. Stewart. I highly recommend joining the online network to participate in monthly workshops, circles, and book clubs.
SACRED HOOP Magazine Guide to Shamanism Compilation- http://www.sacredhoop.org/Pages/FreeGuide.html
Owner Valeria Pearson lovingly created SOLE TO SOUL YOGA studio with a community focus. There are classes for all levels and events that lift the spirit. I am delighted to partner with her to offer a kirtan chanting circle once a month.
My friend and herbalist mentor, LAWRENCE BIRCH is a Certified Clinical Herbalist, plant whisperer and shamanic practitioner. If you need custom tincture blends or are interested in a wildcrafting apprenticeship, he is the teacher extraordinaire:
ROGER WHEELOCK and GAYLE RUTH are shamanic practitioners and teachers in the Pachakuti Mesa Tradition. https://www.rainmother.com/ I am grateful to be able to take part in ceremony with them, and to support their love for the Peruvian people through the World Ayni Association. Roger has a practice in Asheville, NC https://www.communityshaman.com/
NEW WORLD KIRTAN = Kitzie's podcasts include interviews with artists and kirtan music. I love attending her weekly Satsang group and the New World Kirtan Band concerts -