Many of us have come to realize the true nature of the soul as infinite. If we are a practitioner or mystic who works in the quantum realms of non-ordinary reality, we have experienced the soul's past lives. And we have received insights and healing from them for ourselves and for others. We may also have connected with future lives for information and assistance. And for most people who have any kind of spiritual practice, the eternal nature of the soul is a common realization. Reincarnation has become a mainstream belief.
Yet, with all that knowing, loss is still difficult.
And so with our infinite soul view we try to re-frame death as a celebration, a graduation from "Earth school". That is a lovely way to look at the process of dying. But that doesn't mean we don't grieve. We feel the loss of our loved one in our bones. It's an ache in our heart and arms when we can't hold them close, wrap them in a hug. Their absence leaves a hole in our lives. It is supposed to. That means that we were well-loved and that we loved well.
Sometimes we can get caught up in a downward spiral of grief that can last way past what is natural and healthy for us. That can happen if there are unresolved issues between us and our departed loved ones. Grief can get tangled up in unhealthy and untenable guilt and regret. As we do our inner work, forgiveness practice becomes key in smoothing out those tangles. Forgiveness is potent energy and it heals across time and dimensions, and it is especially healing when we forgive ourselves.
It can be comforting to find a medium, that is someone who can connect with the spirit of our loved ones in the spirit realms. They can let us know that the soul of our loved one got to where it needed to go. They can also relay messages, which is important when death occurs with words left unsaid.
Mediums can also help us prepare while the death process is happening by making sure the etheric gateway is open to where they need to go, and that there are healthy ancestors and helping spirits waiting to guide them. We can also call on the helping spirits ourselves and ask that they be with our loved ones and help their passage. if we don't know who to call on, we can always call on angels and archangels and trust they will be there when we ask for help.
I am fortunate to have friends who have strong mediumship skills. I called on them recently to help me ready my beloved 16-year old cat for her final journey to the spirit realms. It had been a long process of increasing care, and giving her the chance to pick her own time. She was the Queen of our family though, so she was having a hard time letting go of us. My medium friends were able to relay messages back and forth over the last two months of her time here, but some additional messages needed to be given before she felt she could go. They also confirmed the gateway was open and let me know who would be there to meet her for her journey. I was then able to create a ceremony for her "graduation".
She had been a part of our family since she was 5 weeks old and so her absence is disorienting. In the few days after she crossed, I felt like the rug had been pulled out from under me and I struggled to find my footing, to feel grounded. And I am surprised at the depth of my grief.
I felt her energy a few times since she crossed over, just coming back to check in on us. I am grateful for that sensitivity of knowing. I'm also grateful that our relationship continues even without her physical body presence. And I am okay with my sadness, I know that it will eventually lessen. Years ago one of my friends gave me the teaching of the grief altar that she learned from her teacher, Linda Fitch. I have set that altar up, holding a ceremonial space in the house for as long as needed.
Loss causes changes in our lives on an energetic level more than we realize. Our heart chakra may initially contract with pain, but as we process our grief, it expands bigger and brighter than it was before. That is the gift they leave us as they depart, we just do not see its value until later.
Good journeys Chai, and thank you.
To help you tend to soul issues that may manifest in physical, emotional, mental or spiritual aspects of your life, and to give you tools to empower your path to harmony and well-being.
-There are so many kindred spirits doing the work out there. I include these links to help our community connect with one another.
FAIRY CONGRESS - Offers a summer weekend gathering in person with workshops, circles and of course faeries and nature beings! They also offer a winter virtual weekend with amazing guest speakers like Orion Foxwood, David Spangler and R.J. Stewart. I highly recommend joining the online network to participate in monthly workshops, circles, and book clubs.
SACRED HOOP Magazine Guide to Shamanism Compilation- http://www.sacredhoop.org/Pages/FreeGuide.html
Owner Valeria Pearson lovingly created SOLE TO SOUL YOGA studio with a community focus. There are classes for all levels and events that lift the spirit. I am delighted to partner with her to offer a kirtan chanting circle once a month.
My friend and herbalist mentor, LAWRENCE BIRCH is a Certified Clinical Herbalist, plant whisperer and shamanic practitioner. If you need custom tincture blends or are interested in a wildcrafting apprenticeship, he is the teacher extraordinaire:
ROGER WHEELOCK and GAYLE RUTH are shamanic practitioners and teachers in the Pachakuti Mesa Tradition. https://www.rainmother.com/ I am grateful to be able to take part in ceremony with them, and to support their love for the Peruvian people through the World Ayni Association. Roger has a practice in Asheville, NC https://www.communityshaman.com/
NEW WORLD KIRTAN = Kitzie's podcasts include interviews with artists and kirtan music. I love attending her weekly Satsang group and the New World Kirtan Band concerts -